Stop Minimizing Yourself…. Own How Amazing You Are!

Your confidence depends on it!!!

Have you ever had one of those weeks where everything you touch seems to go wrong? Where problem after problem seems to be stacking up. Where you are forced to make decisions you really don’t want to make?

Yeah, I had one of those weeks this week.

As I look back, I see I beat the crap out of myself all week long. Every time I acquired more “bad news” I reaffirmed to myself what a lousy business person I am. What a fraud I am for my business not achieving what I predicted it would. I got caught in the comparisonitis, looking at colleagues and assuming they are kicking butt. I allowed negative self-talk in, self-doubt, and looked for all the things I did wrong to cause my situation at hand. I got caught in the need to take some sort of action immediately to turn the ship around.

The truth of the matter is EVERY business has struggles, down times, hick ups, mine is no different. I know that intellectually, but why is it, in the moment, I did the one thing that makes the whole situation 10X’s worse. I allowed myself to cut corners on the things that keep me strong, level-headed, confident and at ease. I cut my meditation quiet time from sometimes two hours to well maybe 20 minutes, I eliminated my daily walks and I put the need to take action as my priority. The false belief that doing some action will be better than no action. Which trust me, isn’t always the case.

Meditation and walks are so important for me because, they help me control negative feelings, self-talk, and anything that contributes to me believing I am less than I really am.

The truth is we are all amazing. We all have incredible talents, skills, accomplishments much of which we downplay, negate or sadly ignore. Why?

We are told not to brag, don’t have too much pride, don’t make others feel lesser, don’t behave like you have a swollen head. So, we temper, downplay, ignore.

Here’s the thing, every time we negate how amazing we are, we reduce confidence in what we can accomplish. We put limits on what we believe we can do. Belief is everything!!!! Let me say that again… YOUR belief is EVERYTHING!!!

“If you believe you can do something you will, if you believe you can’t do something you won’t, either way you are right.” Henry Ford

A belief is simply something we tell ourselves, over and over. Our understanding of what we think is real, possible, true, within our grasp.

So, shouldn’t we be tooting our own horns, every single day, basking in the amazingness that we are, not holding back our joy and screaming that to the world?

I say reach for an overflowing cup of confidence, self-worth, pride in accomplishment and just pure love of self. Here’s why….We ALL hit those roadblocks, the struggles, the challenges in life. No one is immune. Yet, we all respond differently. Some hit road blocks and sail through as if nothing happened. WHY?

I believe it comes back to what they tell themselves about themselves day in day out. Confident, self-assure, dare I say cocky people believe they will get through issues, tell themselves they are capable and

resourceful. Their mind goes, to all the possible ways to resolve the situation at hand looking for the best option with the least resistance. Reinforcing what they believe to be true

But it works the opposite way too, those folks that allow the self-doubt and negative talk in, who create the belief that they are somehow lesser, perform exactly how their beliefs predict.

What can we take from this understanding? First and foremost, stop playing small to not come across as cocky, egotistical, self-absorbed, whatever you are afraid folks are going to say about you. You owe it to yourself to be all you can be. You need that basking in glory for the down times, and there will be down times. Allow your cup to overflow with confidence and possibility of what you can accomplish for without it you are starting with a handicap.

It’s time to stop trying to appease everyone? It isn’t possible, so stop attempting. Be you in your full youness, celebrate your successes, take pride in your accomplishments and feats today and everyday. You will inspire the folks you want to attract and repell those that have their own issues. Isn’t that a good thing? When someone puts you down for you being you in your full glory, trust me, it’s never about you anyways. They aren’t giving themselves permission to do the same. Be proud of yourself for showing them how.

Secondly, this change in how we show up isn’t easy, isn’t going to happen overnight. It takes time, practice, patience and the willingness to be uncomfortable. I mean it, try it. Try sharing something amazing you did, try defining yourself in a positive way to someone else, pay attention to all the qualifying words and phrases you use. “I got lucky”, “right place right time”, passing the praise buck to someone else. Try just owning your accomplishment. I am telling you, it feels yucky, because it feels against what you were taught, do it anyway!!! Once you tell yourself enough you will eventually own it. Bonus points for saying it outloud.

Further to practicing loving yourself in the outside world try pre-paving daily to get ready for your day. This is something I must do daily if I expect to perform with the confidence and ease of full belief in myself. Have a gratitude journal and fill 2-3 pages daily, half of those pages should be full of things you are grateful for about YOU. List your accomplishments, talents, skills, looks, health, I don’t care what, anything that is going to help you set the confidence tone for the day. Make this a habit and don’t drop it, PARTICULARLY in those weeks where things seem to be falling apart. Consider it like taking your vitamins so you don’t get sick.

Finally, feel free to send me a note, comment below, DM me sharing with me how amazing you are…. I love to celebrate others, gives me permission to celebrate myself!!! I could use that this week…